One of the finest way to spice things up in a boring relationship is
opening up to each other about your kinks. A lot of people think that kinks are
the worst thing that can happen. They consider them as embarrassing. However,
the truth is: kinks are fun and you should be open about them. Another reason
why people should come forward and talk about kink openly is because all of us
want it. The success of the movie: 50 shades of grey is one evidence that
proves are liking for the kink to go main stream. If this little speech has
given you motivation to talk about your kink to your partner, let me give you
easy ways to do it.
Communicate – It is the Key: What seems hot to you might not be the exact
thing that looks hot to your partner as well. Therefore, the first step to
better sex life using kink is by talking to your partner about things that you
like. If your partner likes the idea of involving kink in the relationship, go
ahead and discuss it in more detail. Share as much as you want and as much as
they consume. Better communication will always make way for better
relationships.
Kink is not Deviant: The common notion that vanilla sex is what good
people do is taking us to doomsday, sexually. Kink is still a taboo and while
people who practice it find no harm in it, people who are afraid of it do not
let the mentality of the people change about it. It is understandable that
everyone does not have the same kink as you, and therefore there is no reason
why people should be hating it and calling it the demon’s way.
Understand the Difference between
a Kink and an Abuse: Some
kinks have a very vague boundary between being impolite and abusive and keeping
it kinky. Before you jump into the kink boat, discuss the boundaries with your
partner. What may seem like a nice idea and acceptable behaviour to you, might
feel like an abuse to your partner. Boundaries define the extent to which
certain behaviour is tolerable and the threshold after which it will be counted
as lawfully abusive.
Kinks don’t have to be Complex: When I say kink, a lot of people dream about role plays, femdom, findom
and what not. However, the truth is: kinks does not have to be this complex. Using pleasureplayz adult sex toys
like strap-on and vibrators are also counted as kink and loved by many people. You
just need to understand what turns you on and find a way to achieve it.
Do the Research: Once your partner has nodded positively to the
idea of the kink, it’s time to put it into action. But wait, first, do your
homework. You need to understand the risks involved with every kink and
internet is the right place to do it. Start with the adult sex toys that you
want to involve in the kinky play since their reviews are the easiest to find
on the internet.
Kink is good. All you need is a good channel of communication with your
partner.
